はじめまして、りょうです。
今年2歳になる男女の双子のパパをしています。早いもので、私も今年で32歳になります。
妻と私は共働きで、妻はフルリモートのフレックス勤務。私は週2日程度の在宅勤務で、それ以外は出社しています。出張も月に数回あります。
子どもたちは当分のあいだ自宅保育の予定で、私が出社の日は、おばあちゃんが手伝いに来てくれています。
このブログでは、そんな我が家の日常を書き留めていこうと思っています。
同じように双子を育てている方や、共働きで毎日バタバタしている方の参考になったり、「うちも同じだな」と思ってもらえたら嬉しいです。
また、実際に使ってみて良かった育児グッズや家事グッズ、便利アイテムなんかも紹介していこうと思っています。
ゆるく続けていこうと思うので、よかったら覗きに来てください。
みなさんよろしく！
りょう
The first time we went outside with both twins, it took ninety minutes of preparation for a fifteen-minute walk. By the time everyone was fed, changed, and ready, one twin needed changing again.
If you are a new twin parent staring at the front door with anxiety, this post is for you.
A quick errand with twins is not a thing. Every outing takes preparation time. Our rule: whatever time you think you need, add thirty minutes.
The diaper bag lives by the door, restocked every night: diapers, wipes (double quantity), a change of clothes for each twin, feeding supplies, and one spare shirt for the adult. Restocking at night, when both babies are asleep, beats scrambling in the morning.
We plan departures right after a feed, so the time until the next meltdown is as long as possible. We learned this the hard way, more than once.
Nothing attracts conversation like twins. You will hear the same questions thousands of times. Smile and keep moving.
First outing: a walk around the block. Then a nearby park. Then a supermarket. Each trip builds confidence. Six months from now, you will be loading two kids like a pro.
When we brought our twins home from the hospital, I remember standing in the living room thinking: there are two of them and two of us, and somehow we are still outnumbered.
The first three months with twins are a blur of feeding, changing, and trying to remember which baby you just fed. This post is a short, honest list of what actually helped us.
With one baby, you can keep track in your head. With two, you cannot. We kept a simple log of who ate, when, and how much. It sounds excessive until you are on your third night feed and cannot remember which twin you fed forty minutes ago.
The best advice we received: when one twin wakes to feed, wake the other too. Letting each baby follow their own schedule means someone is always awake, and that someone is never you sleeping. It saved our sanity.
One of our twins was a champion eater. The other treated every bottle like a negotiation. We wasted energy trying to keep everything perfectly equal. Twins are two different people from day one.
For three months, dinner was whatever could be eaten with one hand. The apartment was a mess. None of it mattered. The only jobs that matter: babies fed, babies safe, parents mostly sane.
If you are in the middle of it right now: it gets better, and faster than you think. Around the three-month mark, something shifts. The fog starts to lift, and you begin to feel like a family again.
Before our twins were born, I read plenty about what to feed babies. What nobody explained was the logistics: how exactly two adults (or frequently, one adult) feed two babies at the same time, around the clock, without losing their minds.
Here is what we learned the hard way.
Newborn twins can easily mean 16 feeds a day between them. If you are bottle feeding, that’s a constant cycle of washing, sterilizing, and preparing. The fix that saved us: batching. We prepared bottles in batches and washed everything in batches, instead of doing the full cycle one bottle at a time. Whatever your setup, design it so that 3 a.m. you has to think as little as possible.
Solo-feeding two babies is a skill, and you will need it. What worked for us: babies positioned safely on a firm surface or in their seats, slightly inclined, one bottle in each hand, and absolutely nothing else scheduled for the next thirty minutes. The first few attempts feel like a circus act. By week three it’s just Tuesday.
I’ll repeat the advice from our first-three-months post because it matters most at feeding time: log every feed. Which twin, when, how much. Two sleep-deprived parents handing off duties without a log is how a baby ends up fed twice — or not at all.
Our twins never ate the same amounts, and pediatricians told us that’s completely normal. Compare each baby to their own growth curve, not to their sibling. The earlier you internalize this, the less time you spend worrying about the “smaller eater.”
Feeding twins never becomes effortless, but it absolutely becomes routine. Build your system early, be ruthless about simplifying it, and remember: fed is what matters, in whatever form works for your family.
When you’re expecting twins, the gear question gets expensive fast. The instinct is to take a standard baby checklist and multiply everything by two. Resist that instinct — it’s the fastest way to fill your home with stuff you don’t need.
After living it, here’s our honest breakdown.
A few categories work differently for twins and deserve real research before you buy: a double stroller (the single biggest gear decision a twin family makes — tandem vs. side-by-side changes your daily life), a twin feeding pillow (game-changing if you plan to feed both at once), and a baby monitor that can watch two sleep spaces. We’ll cover how to choose each of these in detail in future posts.
The best money we spent was on things that saved time or made solo-parenting two babies possible. The worst money we spent was on duplicate gadgets “just in case.” When in doubt: buy one, see if it works, and remember that a second one is always just a delivery away.
Ask any twin parent what their biggest fear is, and most will give you some version of the same answer: the dreaded “tag team,” where one baby wakes just as the other falls asleep, around the clock, forever.
Getting our twins onto one shared schedule was the single most important thing we did for our own survival. Here is the approach that worked for us.
Feeding, naps, baths, bedtime — whatever one twin does, the other does at the same time. If one wakes hungry at 2 a.m., we fed both. If one woke early from a nap, the nap was over for both. It feels strict, but babies adapt to rhythm remarkably fast, and within a few weeks their internal clocks had genuinely synced.
Our twins sleep in the same room, and we run the same bedtime routine every night: bath, pajamas, dim lights, feed, bed. The routine matters more than the time on the clock. Twins are surprisingly good at sleeping through each other’s noise — far better than we expected. Resist the urge to separate them at the first cry; most of the time, the other twin sleeps right through it.
For night duty, we found it far better to split by time than by baby. Instead of each parent being permanently “on call” for one twin (meaning neither parent ever truly sleeps), one of us took the first half of the night and the other took the second. Four hours of guaranteed, uninterrupted sleep is worth more than eight hours of broken sleep.
Teething, colds, growth spurts: the schedule will break. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s a default rhythm you can keep returning to. Every time things fell apart, we went back to basics — synced feeds, synced naps — and within a few days we were back on track.
A shared schedule will not make twin parenting easy. But it makes it plannable, and when you have two babies, plannable is everything.